Sex With Purpose

 The title of this blog is "washed whiter than snow"- because that's what God's forgiveness is like. He has redeemed and made me whole. (You Have Won Me, Bethel Music) God is making me new. My past has messed up my mindset, but God is restoring me. How I was isn't how I have to be. I have hope. I have a future. God makes all things work together for my good. Even my wrong choices God will use for good. God is making me stronger.

SELFLESS PURPOSE

The other day I started going through my purity class again.  One of the lessons teaches about the purpose of sex. That a purpose for sex is oneness between the husband and wife. Any sex that does not fulfill that purpose is sex used improperly. Pleasure is good and created by God, but pleasure is a benefit of sex not the purpose. Pleasure is like a bonus. People shouldn't use sex to get pleasure. Because sex wasn't designed for a person to be selfish. I would say that another purpose of sex is to give love to your spouse. The lesson teaches that sex doesn't "make love," but it expresses it. I agree. A person doesn't create love by having sex. A (married) person decides to love someone and decides to express that love. Sex can be a way to show love by giving pleasure, but shouldn't be a way to take and get pleasure. 

I realize that I have made a lot of selfish choices when it comes to sexual things. These past few days of not letting my sexuality rule me has been very torturous. I previously had given in to every temptation that popped into my head. Now,  I have had to choose that I won't give myself whatever I want. My sexuality wasn't created for me to selfishly take and satisfy my every desire. Even when I am married, I won't necessarily have my every desire met. That's because my whole life can't revolve around me. I would be selfish and spoiled literally rotten if I got everything I wanted. It's good that we're figuring this out now because our marriage would be filled with a lot of hurt if I acted with as much greed as I have been. 

I really want to change my mindset about sex and not let my desires rule me. I'm scared of how long I can stay self controlled. I know that it is important for me to tame my desires and to not let a hint of compromise in. I need to stay out of trouble. I need to be stronger. 

Prayer: God, give me strength the overcome. Help me be who you have made me to be. Help me experience the fullness of your gift. Help me to be one who gives instead of take. Create in me a selfless heart. Help me to deny my desires to do what is right. Help me fight temptation. Help me to make wise choices. Help me to build a better future. Protect my marriage. Help me to only put good things into it.