Following The New List

Following the rules has been hard. I constantly get frustrated about what I can't do. I have strong feelings of what I want, that are unable to be satisfied.

The list is good. I know that there are so many benefits to following the list that we made.The purpose of the rules is to avoid sexual encounters so that we will not be distracted from growing other parts of our relationship.This is important because we love each other and want to grow our relationship. If we’re going to be in a relationship, let’s make it good. There’s no point in wasting our time on a relationship without depth. We want a godly relationship. We want to live a godly life so that we can be leaders to others.

Putting the list in print really helps us to remember that these rules are official. Before the list, it was easy to think of the rules as being subject to change at any moment that I changed my mind and wanted something differently. Now we have specific things that we know are not okay. What is okay and not okay is not only what is on the list. The list is a guide to HELP keep us out of trouble. If we avoid the things on the list we will generally stay out of trouble. It would be difficult to get into big trouble without breaking any of the rules on the list. However, we can't only follow the list we also need to generally think about our choices and whether they are helpful to our goal of avoiding sexual encounters and protecting each other's purity.